Yeah, I know you were referring to Parker, and I completely agree Hellman was wrong to contest the will. In my mind though, I had pegged her as a total b!tch - which she very well might have been - but I was doing so without knowing anything about her, so I just did a bit of drilling and found she and Parker encountered the same type of misogyny throughout their careers.
"I love to see a young girl go out and grab the world by the lapels. Life’s a bitch. You’ve got to go out and kick ass." ~ Maya Angelou
Ah, see? This is one of those cases in which you were supposed to be able to read my mind! (eye-roll)
“I embrace the label of bad feminist because I am human. I am messy. I’m not trying to be an example. I am not trying to be perfect. I am not trying to say I have all the answers. I am not trying to say I’m right. I am just trying—trying to support what I believe in, trying to do some good in this world, trying to make some noise with my writing while also being myself.” ~ from "Bad Feminist"; Roxane Gay (1974 - )
Roxane Gay is the author of several books, a professor, editor, and commentator. "Bad Feminist", a New York Times Best Seller, is a collection of essays addressing political and cultural issues - a New York Times reviewer called it "a manual on how to be human". Gay explains the book and her role as being a "bad feminist" thusly: "In each of these essays, I’m very much trying to show how feminism influences my life for better or worse. It just shows what it’s like to move through the world as a woman. It’s not even about feminism per se, it’s about humanity and empathy."
We've heard from women authors for the last few weeks, but as Women's History Month comes to a close, here's something a little bit different: quotes from a few men who are contemporary public figures we've all heard of, whose words have/had the ability to sway opinions of others. To follow those opinions which prove the journey is not over, are quotes from women authors who are on the journey, boldly guiding the way.
"I listen to feminists and all these radical gals - most of them are failures. They've blown it. Some of them have been married, but they married some Casper Milquetoast who asked permission to go to the bathroom. These women just need a man in the house. That's all they need. Most of the feminists need a man to tell them what time of day it is and to lead them home. And they blew it and they're mad at all men. Feminists hate men. They're sexist. They hate men - that's their problem." ~ Jerry Falwell
"A feminist is anyone who recognizes the equality and full humanity of women and men." ~ Gloria Steinem, journalist and founder of Ms. Magazine
"Feminism is a socialist, anti-family, political movement that encourages women to leave their husbands, kill their children, practice witchcraft, destroy capitalism and become lesbians." ~ Pat Robinson
"I myself have never been able to find out precisely what feminism is: I only know that people call me a feminist whenever I express sentiments that differentiate me from a door mat or a prostitute." ~ Rebecca West, British author, journalist, and literary critic
The real liberators of American women were not the feminist noise-makers; they were the automobile, the supermarket, the shopping center, the dishwasher, the washer-dryer, the freezer. ~ Pat Buchanan
"In the near future the images in history will differ and the faces who changed the world would no longer be reserved for the masculine. We always knew history to be a story told by him but the future will have one that is written by her as well." ~ Aysha Taryam, Middle Eastern journalist, and editor-in-chief of an English language newspaper
"I'm a huge supporter of women. What I'm not is a supporter of liberalism. Feminism is what I oppose. Feminism has led women astray. I love the women's movement—especially when walking behind it." ~ Rush Limbaugh
"It's not my responsibility to be beautiful. I'm not alive for that purpose. My existence is not about how desirable you find me." Warsan Shire, Kenyan-born British writer, poet, editor and teacher
"Feminism was established so as to allow unattractive women easier access to the mainstream of society." ~ Rush Limbaugh
"I want to apologize to all the women I have called beautiful Before I’ve called them intelligent or brave… From now on I will say things like You are resilient, or you are extraordinary Not because I don’t think you’re beautiful But because I need you to know You are more than that." ~ Rupi Kaur, Indian-born Canadian poet and writer
"Women have been trained to speak softly and carry a lipstick. Those days are over." ~ Bella Abzug (July, 1920 - March, 1998)
Bella Abzug did it in the House.
"Battling Bella", as she was known, was a social activist and a leader of the Women's Movement in the 70s. She became an attorney in the 40s, when very few women practiced law, and in 1970, was elected to the House of Representatives, representing West Manhattan; her campaign slogan, still used today, was "A woman's place is in the House — the House of Representatives". She was a champion of gay rights, women's rights, environmental causes, and even after leaving office, continued until her death to be an influential figure in the UN and elsewhere, working to empower women around the world.
Rosie, brrrrr, the Riveter ~ from the song "Rosie the Riveter"
Rosalind P. Walter did it driving rivets on the graveyard shift.
Roz (as she was known to her friends, not "Rosie") Walter was the inspiration for the song and the legendary moniker "Rosie the Riveter" after a newspaper article was written about her, becoming the archetype of the hardworking women who kept the factories going while the men, who normally held those positions, were fighting in WWII.
Despite being the original "Rosie the Riveter", she was not the model for the now famous posters of the woman in overalls with the bandanna-wrapped hair. Rosalind Walter was best known, not for her work during WWII, but in the late-20th and early-21st century for her philanthropy and as an advocate for the humanities. She was a huge benefactor of public television programming across the United States, for the improvement of educational opportunities for disadvantaged youth, and the protection of wildlife and open space areas.
Rosalind P. Walter died this week, March 4, 2020, at the age of 95.
Wow - what a incredibly strong and brave woman! I'd never heard of her, so I did a 2-second drill. Tori Murden is not only the first woman and first American to row across the Atlantic, she is also the first woman and first American to ski to the geographic South Pole, and the first woman to climb the Lewis Nunatak in the Antarctic.
Thanks for posting the video, Joxie. I especially like what she said toward the end of it - (paraphrasing) - 'We all face big waves; we all run into storms. It doesn't seem like we'll make it through, but we will.'
Isn't that the truth sometimes?
My brother called Sunday, not specifically to wish me a Happy International Women's Day, but he did. I was kinda touched he even knew what day it was....and I got to spend it with my favorite two women in all of the world. Both BP and LX were here for the weekend!
Billie Eilish, known for wearing loose-fitting clothing in an effort to keep people from sexualizing her body and being objectified, started off her concert tour a couple of days ago with a video of her shedding clothing layers down to a sports bra, lowering herself into a pool of water. As the video played in front of the concert audience, she spoke in a voice over, the following statement about body image criticism....
“Do you really know me? You have opinions about my opinions, about my music, about my clothes, about my body. Some people hate what I wear, some people praise it. Some people use it to shame others, some people use it to shame me. But I feel you watching ... always. And nothing I do goes unseen.
“So while I feel your stares, your disapproval or your sighs of relief, if I lived by them, I’d never be able to move. Would you like me to be smaller? Weaker? Softer? Taller? Would you like me to be quiet? Do my shoulders provoke you? Does my chest? Am I my stomach? My hips? The body I was born with, is it not what you wanted? If what I wear is comfortable, I am not a woman. If I shed the layers, I am a slut.
“Though you’ve never seen my body, you still judge it and judge me for it. Why? You make assumptions about people based on their size. We decide who they are. We decide what they’re worth. If I wear more, if I wear less, who decides what that makes me? What that means? Is my value based only on your perception? Or is your opinion of me not my responsibility?” ~ Billie Eilish
Growing up with my dad, his attitude was: “Damned if you do, damned if you don’t.” My choices were always the wrong ones. Even though he’s dead, I still sometimes have a hard time making decisions. Also, being “worthless as tits on a boar hog” has me sabotaging myself to fulfill my destiny of being worthless, lazy, and unsuccessful. I wonder what I could/would have accomplished had I had better parents. And now that they’re dead, can I finally move on and be the person I should have been?
Maybe with women like Billie, we women can finally shed the judgements that hold us back, that forces us into a hole we never saw in the path as we made our way to our bright future. Is that day finally so close we can reach out and touch it? Or do we have many more battles to overcome? When will we not have to fight/work harder than a man to get one-fifth of what he gets effortlessly? Billie should be allowed to wear whatever she wants, because it’s the style she loves, and not in order to prevent negative judgments or assumptions about how pure or trashy she is. If she really loves the style she’s been sporting, she should continue to wear it, and if not, it’s time she went with the style she’s been dying to wear all along.
Since she’s a teenager, I found it refreshing that she dressed modestly. That she didn’t dress in styles too adult for her age. That she was a really good role model for other teenage girls. And I was hoping that once she was officially an adult, her transition to adult styles would be slow and gradual. That she waited until she was in her early twenties before she chose to more maturely. Maybe even follow Taylor Swift’s modest lead and opt for a classy adult style of her own. But, whatever she chooses is her right, and she shouldn’t have to consider what anyone else wants. She’s gonna be damned if she does, and damned if she doesn’t, so she might as well do it her way. She’ll be much happier living with her own choices, versus living her life to please the unpleasable.
...Also, being “worthless as tits on a boar hog” has me sabotaging myself to fulfill my destiny of being worthless, lazy, and unsuccessful. I wonder what I could/would have accomplished had I had better parents. And now that they’re dead, can I finally move on and be the person I should have been?
You most certainly can move on, because being "worthless, lazy, and unsuccessful" was never a destiny. It was only an idea put into your head by others, and unfortunately it seemed to stick enough that you're having a hard time letting go of it. Gonna paraphrase Eilish again, because the quote is right in front of me...'Who decides what makes me? Is my value based only on your perception? Or is your opinion of me not my responsibility?
You know you are not those things, so f**k those old opinions - they don't matter now, especially since the person who held them is dead. You are the only person that matters regarding your self-worth, and screw anyone that gets in your way or tries to drag you down. You have the power to be who you want to be, and ....
"You had the power all along, my dear"- Glinda the Good Witch
I'm trying to let it go. And I'm guessing that's behind my fear of success. I want to succeed, but it scares me silly, and then I mess up so that there's no possibility of success. Last year, my sister, her husband, and I were sitting out on her front porch ... Easter or July 4 maybe? ... and we were discussing the past, and she said she was always sabotaging anything that was important to her, and blaming it on how we were raised. I told her to join the club. That I most likely would have Self/Indie Published by now if I didn't keep sabotaging myself all of the time. Each year for many years now I have told myself that this will be the year I finally publish, and every time I start working towards that goal, something would come up that I would use as an excuse not to do it this year ... I'll do it next year. And next year. And next year. And if nothing came up, I'd overthink it, or find a way to turn it to crap ... and I'm still doing that. Finding other things to do that will delay me this year. What software/programs should I use? Do I go with free? Do I spend money on what I need? And if I get that figured out, I'll find something else just as important to waste my time on. And now that I'm seeing that ... that I'm saying that ... will I step up and finally stop repeating the sabotaging? We shall see. Because the thing about me is ... I will put up with something ... and put up with something ... and put with something ... and then I'll finally do something about it. So, the question is ... have I finally had enough of putting this off?
I finally have my business title figured out ... I need to get the DBA ... I need to figure out the software/program in order to start creating the manuscripts ... (I have those plotted out already, hand printed in notebooks, just not typed up.) I gotta figure out book covers, ISBNs, book formatting, and probably a lot of things I can't remember right now. I could probably procrastinate and write up a plan of some sort ... or make a 'to do' list. ... hmm ...
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Hhhmmm...I dunno, Joxie. Maybe while things are as unstable as they are right now, you might redefine what being successful means to you in your business venture. If the goal before all this happened was to publish, maybe just getting to the point of being ready to publish when things stabilize becomes your goal...and your new definition of success for the time being. Measure things in smaller increments of success instead of in terms of one big fell swoop? Redefine, adjust, and fine tune? All are working toward your eventual goal.
"There is no royal flower-strewn path to success. And if there is, I have not found it, for if I have accomplished anything in life it is because I have been willing to work hard.” ~ Madame C.J. Walker
Madame C.J. Walker invented a line of African-American hair care products in 1905, and through her skillful marketing, eventually became one of the first American women to become a self-made millionaire.
I think what I have would interest traditional publishers. I suppose I could opt to go that route if the $hit hits the fan. The DBA part will probably have to wait until the courthouse is more open. It might be something I can do online though. Not quite ready to get one yet. I’ll just keep moving forward and act like this isn’t a roadblock.
I’ll just keep moving forward and act like this isn’t a roadblock.
"We all have challenges. You can let them be obstacles or roadblocks, or you can use them. ~ Amy Purdy
Amy Purdy (born November 7, 1979) is an American actress, model, para-snowboarder, motivational speaker, clothing designer and author. Having lost both legs below the knee after contracting meningitis at age 19, and 7 months after receiving her prosthetic legs, she started snowboarding, and became the 2014 Paralympic bronze medalist, 2018 Paralympics silver medalist, and co-founder of Adaptive Action Sports, a nonprofit for physically disabled people who want to get involved in sports, arts, and music.
She also said, "Instead of looking at our challenges and limitations as something negative or bad, we can begin to look at them as blessings, magnificent gifts that can be used to ignite our imaginations and help us go further than we ever knew we could go."
It would have been nice for Hellman, if those rights included being judged on merit not appearance. We may have come a long way, but like you said, Joxie, "there is still a struggle". .
The Brontë sisters commented on that very fact in: "To Walk Invisible."
"When a man writes something, it's what he's written that's judged. When a woman writes something, it's her that's judged." - Emily Brontë. ----- PBS's To Walk Invisible. Feminism, women's empowerment, quotes.
"If we're to be taken seriously and judged fairly and make anything resembling a profit, we must walk invisible." - Charlotte Brontë.
It's March. I had thought about posting about this woman in Black History month, but instead decided to wait until Women's History Month - because we've never had a "Madam Vice President" of any race or ethnicity in our country's history.
"I was raised by a mother who said to me all the time, 'Kamala, you may be the first to do many things — make sure you're not the last.'" ~ Kamala Harris, glass-ceiling breaker, and first Black United States vice president, first Asian-American US Vice President, and first woman Vice President.
And just to recap, here are all the women I posted about in Black History Month this year, who are an inspiration to women, past and present:
Cicely Tyson, actress with a career spanning more than seven decades, known for her portrayal of strong African-American women.
Lorraine Hansberry was an American playwright, author, and activist. Her play, "A Raisin in the Sun", was the first play written by a Black female to be performed on Broadway.
Queen Latifah, singer, songwriter, rapper, actress, producer, model, and humanitarian.
Naomi Wadler, student activist working toward common-sense gun-control regulations.
Hazel Dorothy Scott, critically acclaimed jazz and classical pianist, singer, and actor, used her influence to improve the representation of Black Americans in film.
Amanda Gorman, the first National Youth Poet Laureate, whose poetry focuses on issues of oppression, feminism, race, and marginalization.
"Courage in women is often mistaken for insanity." ~ Alice Paul (1885 - 1977)
Alice Paul was an outspoken leader in the women's suffrage movement. Jailed in both England and in the U.S. for her participation in the movement, force-feed through a tube shoved in her nose when she went on a hunger strike in prison, and threatened with commitment to an insane asylum, Paul was steadfast in her fight for women's voting rights. After the 19th Amendment passed in 1920 giving women the right to vote in the U.S., she remained committed in working toward the equality of women throughout the world.